“Better to trust and be disappointed once in a while, than it is to distrust & be miserable all the time”
– Coach John Wooden
A common definition of trust is when you rely on the integrity, strength, or ability of another person—it is an expression of our confidence in others. Occasionally, we just feel it, but most of the time other people have to earn our trust.
Why are we so stingy with our trust? I think it is a learned behavior. People break promises and sooner or later we learn to be cautious or not to trust our instincts or impulses. Better safe than sorry.
Yet, this same learned behavior impedes our progress with new people and new ideas. John Wooden tells us to trust first, if we can. There are many good people out—you just need to trust them and give them a chance.
John Bradley Jackson
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Right. I think so many people fear being mislead they miss out on honest people and good relationships. I think it’s much better to trust – than if someone does a ‘wrong’ thing whether in business or a romantic relationship, that’s the end of it and it’s time to move on. But not risking at all is sorta like not living or at least limiting life experience. Instead, there is opportunity in all typed of risk to learn resilience and coping. Thanks John for your great posts. You are the man!
A trusted friend will “allow you” to take risks.
JBJ